As human beings, I think one of the hardest thing to do after a bad break up is to force one's self to continue to stew in one's misery and think through one's heart. So many are apt to let go of bad relationships and just not think about it. Others continue to push the broken relationship down, down, down, until he thinks that it's no longer there and try to ignore that the relationship ever existed. For myself, I have a hard time letting go because I have to really process the relationship first and once I'm done processing, I can let it go.
I admit that I had to let go of a broken relationship and afterwards, I didn't really think about the relationship. I thought I did, but I didn't. When I finally did confront my broken relationship and all that had happened during it, unfortunately, I had let too much time pass and wasted too much of another person's time. For that I am very sorry. Yet, I eventually did work through my issues with that broken relationship and I have not only asked for forgiveness from my former beau, but I've also learned to forgive myself. From my point of view, I'm glad that my former beau is still alive so that I can apologize to him directly and have an open conversation with him about our broken relationship.
I also realize that sometimes, there isn't that open of a communication line (not with just my former beaus but also with others), so I set an intent and send a prayer to the the universe and hope that my message gets to the right person. Not all of my processing takes a long time, although, there have been a few that just took too long. Regardless, once I let go, I let go.
How do you let go? Do you eventually forgive the other person and yourself?